Growing up in Oakland, California, as a Mexican American woman, I have always loved the rich mix of cultures that makes this city so special, from the diverse backgrounds and lively music to the delicious food and different points of view. Oakland offers a unique opportunity to explore not only the world around us but also our own identities, which you can’t experience in many other cities. Engaging with such a kaleidoscope of cultures is one of the city’s greatest gifts. Yet, navigating life here or anywhere else can be challenging if you don’t conform to society’s narrow definition of “normal.” This struggle is magnified for those who face the harsh realities of stigma and stereotypes, particularly the homeless. As I reflect on my journey, I aim to shed light on the stories that often go unheard, revealing the strength and resilience that thrive in the shadows of society.
I am not so proud of my city these days…
Being homeless and living on the streets—or even in an RV—feels like being a tiny mouse peeking around corners, perpetually watchful for hungry cats with their predatory eyes and sharp fangs poised to pounce from every direction. In reality, I’ve set up camp, minding my own business and fighting to survive, yet there’s ever-present anxiety in the back of my mind: the city could show up any day with a polite but ruthless ultimatum—“I don’t care where you go; you just have to get the hell out of here.” As someone who prides themselves on being caring and empathetic, it’s jarring to confront the harsh cruelty people can wield against others in vulnerable situations. Until I fell into homelessness, I had never personally experienced discrimination or been treated differently because of my circumstances or demographics. Once I found myself living in my motorhome, I was abruptly thrust into a world where judgment is rampant, and compassion often feels nonexistent. What was once a means of survival became a source of stigma, as I grappled with the reality that the very attempt to seek shelter could invite disdain and hostility rather than understanding.
Don’t get me wrong I live on the streets, but I have a home. My parents have never banned me from their home, I’ve always had their support and whatever help they can afford to give. However, they’re barely making ends meet themselves. When my propane is out or food gets low, I have a home to go to where I can eat and shower, charge my laptop, portable chargers, lights, and phone, get cold and hot water, wash my clothes, and use the restroom. Despite all of this I still struggle. I got my associate's degree while living on the streets and I’m a hustler, I’m not lazy and I think I’m an intelligent woman but sometimes it feels impossible to get out of this hole. Now for just a couple of seconds imagine the people out on the streets who don’t have the keys to their parent's house and are not welcomed in with open arms, who don’t have support or the help that I am blessed enough to have…
Many people fail to recognize the complexity of homelessness, often viewing individuals in these situations through a narrow lens shaped by stereotypes or misconceptions. The harsh reality of being uprooted repeatedly illustrates society's profound lack of empathy. Especially for the more vulnerable unhoused populations such as the elderly, mentally ill, youth, women, and those who are disabled. Later on, I’ll share some stories of people who have died on these streets due to being displaced without receiving any type of resources or alternatives. Living in a motorhome might provide some semblance of stability, but it still places you at the mercy of city regulations and public perception. The fear of being displaced adds another layer of stress, making it difficult to find peace or a sense of belonging. You’re not just trying to survive; you’re also grappling with the emotional toll of being treated as an outsider, a burden, or even an eyesore. So maybe these stories and another look into what life is like on the streets for most of us, might foster understanding and compassion for those who face these challenges. Remember homelessness can happen to anyone due to unforeseen circumstances. I hope my story sheds light on the need for more inclusive and supportive communities that recognize the dignity of each individual, regardless of their living situation. I also hope sharing my experiences can help bridge the gap of understanding and inspire change, leading to more humane policies and attitudes towards homelessness.